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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough envir­onment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Envir­onment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-​​appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your con­tri­butions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people con­cerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Com­petition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy com­petition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bull­dozers, brown nosers, gos­sip­mongers, whiners, back­stabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, con­trollers, naggers, com­plainers, exploders, pat­ronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Envir­onment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flex­ibility, adapt­ability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life dif­ficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be sus­ceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the neg­at­ivities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determ­ination Theory
The way you are and your beha­vioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your envir­on­mental sur­roundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the per­mission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough spe­cially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Vol­un­tarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will even­tually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and dis­cipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determ­ination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be con­tented and happy. Be appre­ciative. Never miss an oppor­tunity to com­pliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

This article was ori­ginally pub­lished on www.HypnotherapyClinic.info by Con­sultant Clinical Hyp­no­therapist & Pys­cho­therapist Noel Bradford –

As a pro­fes­sional therapist Noel help people with everything that you would expect including giving up smoking, con­trolling their weight, dealing with fears and phobias. However his services go far beyond this and encompass things that affect everyone at some time in their life, such as depression, anxiety, panic attacks, stress, and low self esteem.

He  also has detailed spe­cialist training in several areas including but not limitted to Irrittable Bowel Syndrome and Pyscho­sexual matters that affect men such as Errectile Dys­function and Pre­mature Ejac­u­lation as well as those affecting women such as Hyper Desire Disorder, Vaginisums, and Dys­pareunia.

Ori­ginally posted 2010-​​01-​​26 10:13:55.